Thoughts of the Month: The Diet Struggle


Thoughts of the Month


I don’t know one women who doesn’t struggle with their weight and dabbles with dieting in a desperate bid to achieve their goal weight aka the holy grail.  I recently attended a panel debate hosted by XLS Medical about why diets don’t work and it got me thinking about the vast amount of information we are bombarded with on a daily basis and how it should be conveyed in order to achieve a positive impact.

As I listened to the panel discuss about how we should be eating and the life choices we should be making I quickly realised how far removed I am from the ideal diet.  I’m going to hold my hands up and say I’m not a foodie and I’m a horrible cook.  My sweet tooth dictates I need, yes need, an abnormal amount of chocolate and my penchant for time saving means I live on M&S readymade meals.  My terrible diet isn’t something I’m very proud of but sadly I often find a lot of information out there, especially from authoritative figures such nutritionists, dieticians and exercise gurus very unapproachable.

We talk about body shaming a lot and I absolutely agree this has a monumental part to play in our body image insecurities.  However, what about the flip side?  Those obsessive fitness fiends and health experts who bombard us and preach with their inflated superiority complexes about how we should be living our lives.  While their bodies might be healthy, their mentalities to condemn and shame us about our life/food choices makes me recoil.  If even those who do have a positive message aren’t able to convey it in a less intimidating and nauseating manner then it’s hardly surprising we choose quick fixes, such as crash diets, instead of sustained healthy life choices.

What I found most interesting about the XLS Medical debate was one of the panel members was a life coach and the manner in which she advocated a healthy lifestyle was the most refreshing I’ve heard.  It wasn’t the usual “eat more vegetables” or “do more exercise”, instead she focused on the idea of emotional eating.  We need to get in touch with our mind and try to understand if we’re eating for any other reason than being hungry, why are we doing this? For example is it to fill an emotional void?

The second interesting point she made was if we understand our emotions more when it comes to eating then we can learn to forgive of ourselves, rather than being guilt ridden which in turn can lead to purging, crash diets and complicated relationships with food.  If you love yourself, you’ll instinctively want to look after your body but also you won’t beat yourself up for treating yourself every now and again.

Finally the other really refreshing aspect of the debate was the hosts XLS Medical opened up the floor to questions where they got a bit of a grilling about their slimming aids.  I’ve never been an advocate of taking weight loss supplements but I was really impressed by how they spoke about their product, particularly given that they were asked some quite tricky questions.  If I ever got to a stage where I felt my weight had spiralled I would certainly consider taking these.  I applaud any company that opens itself up for debate and allows people to ask the tough questions as it proves the strength of their product and that they really have nothing to hide.  Read more about XLS Medical HERE.




  1. jess June 3, 2016 / 6:06 am

    great post! just a couple of years ago, i focus on eating less and more vegetable. and i thought of emotional eating. i wish i know that earlier.

    jess x |

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:27 pm

      It was such a fascinating point about how our feelings/emotions effect weight and diet. Thank you for the lovely comment xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:29 pm

      Absolutely, I agree. Restaurants often don’t cater for healthy dishes or are too full of temptation. To be honest I’d rather be social and see my friends than sit at home alone eating a boring salad! Haha xx

    • thatnewd June 9, 2016 / 11:52 am

      Oh my goodness! That’s the worst! Diets don’t work, I agree its about lifestyle and being happy and healthy! xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:06 pm

      Thank you lovely xx

  2. Violette June 3, 2016 / 7:31 pm

    The diet thing is kind of problematic everyone says different things so we don’t really who trust… I heard about XLS Medical but I need to read more about! Great post! Happy Friday!

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:04 pm

      So true, there’s so much info out there. XLS is definitely worth a look into if you’ve got the time xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:04 pm

      Thank you hun xx

  3. Deborah June 3, 2016 / 9:27 pm

    Such an interesting post to read, dear. Yes, we’ve all been there so I guess we can all related to what you’re saying. I must confess I always sucked at dieting but at the same time on the daily basis I realized I eat actually `healthy’ compared to other people (bread is my guilty pleasure, tho).
    All in all, I loved reading this refreshing approach to such a popular subject. The idea of questioning why we’re eating from time to time makes so much sense and I’ll remember it in the future. Thanks for sharing!!

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:04 pm

      I wish bread was my only guilty pleasure! So glad you enjoyed the post, makes me very happy! Hehe xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:02 pm

      I think you are so right. Eat what you want and be happy, just make sure you aren’t doing or eating anything to extreme! xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:02 pm

      Absolutely! I’m now really interested in how mental health affects our weight and lifestyle. I think it’s such a fundamental element xx

    • thatnewd June 9, 2016 / 1:52 pm

      Thank you hunny xx

  4. gail June 4, 2016 / 8:05 am

    I went on a diet before but quit in a few days. I have changed my mind to be a girl who eats happily while working out me. And it works on me!

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:01 pm

      Sounds like a perfect plan… I’m right there with you hun! xx

  5. Betsy Todd June 4, 2016 / 9:06 am

    Yes, every woman pay more attention on weight. We want to look more slim and beautiful

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:00 pm

      Yes, it’s important but I think it’s more important to be happy and healthy xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 10:00 pm

      Thank you hun xx

  6. Funmi Alabi June 4, 2016 / 4:49 pm

    Very informative post hun! The point made are absolutely correct. The idea of ‘dieting’ is quite an interesting topic that one has to be fully informed before stepping into.

    Funmi x

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:59 pm

      Absolutely! Dieting is actually a horrible word, I think aiming to be happy and healthy is better! xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:59 pm

      Thank you! xx

  7. Milica June 4, 2016 / 10:52 pm

    Lovely post! Maybe we could follow each other on GFC and instagram @djonovic_milica? If yes, follow me and I follow back as soon as I see it.
    Let me know with a comment on my Blog


    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:59 pm

      Thank you! I don’t use GFC but will try and find you on insta xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:58 pm

      No worries hun xx

  8. kayla kruse June 5, 2016 / 4:41 am

    I love your braids, but I do agree with this post! Every female definitely has a struggle with their monthly diet or even binge eating!

    Enjoy your weekend <3

    Kayla xo // Kayla’s Vibration

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:58 pm

      Yes I think it’s an endless struggle for women but at the end of the day we just need to focus on being happy and everything else will fall into place xx

  9. Christina June 5, 2016 / 9:26 am

    Love that cute outfit! And how awesome is your bag! This sounds like a really interesting debate. I think we should all be a bit more relaxed about weight issues. Lots of stress related to that topic is so unnecessary while being healthy should be our priority.
    Christina ♥

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:57 pm

      I totally agree with you hun! We’re definitely on the same page. xx

    • thatnewd June 5, 2016 / 9:56 pm

      Thank you hun! I think every woman does but as long as we’re happy and healthy that’s all that matters! xx

  10. Lorena June 14, 2016 / 6:49 pm

    Oh don’t get me started about weight.
    These days everything is tight and I just want to fall asleep and wake up thin.
    I dont have healthy eating habits, am also a terrible cook and also extremely lazy…. so my probabilities are pretty much just exercising.

    • thatnewd June 16, 2016 / 9:55 pm

      Haha you and me both! I dream about waking up with my perfect body! I guess I will keep dreaming xx

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